To be Vulnerable is Just Fantastic

The mission of Toastmasters 7 club is to provide members with a mutually supportive and positive environment to practice public speaking while receiving constructive feedback to improve communication and leadership skills.

One thing I think is especially striking about our club (besides the fact that we like to have fun!) is the members and guests are in a safe and comforting space to explore and push past their comfort zone in developing their communication skills. Over the past six years, I have listened to and been moved by too many speeches to count.

I think it is the speeches where our speakers describe their vulnerability that tends to have a dramatic impact – in both subtle and overt ways. That opens a door, inviting us to develop and strengthen our sense of empathy and ultimately, become better people.

Last week’s meeting was held on Valentine’s Day, our Vice President of Public Relations gave a speech that resonated with me a great deal. I was also her evaluator and she wanted me to evaluate her based on her vocal variety, stage presence, and storytelling while displaying emotional vulnerability – this is a degree of skill that only advanced speakers can execute well, and Elaine did so.

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I asked Elaine what motivated her to give the speech.  To which she responded –

“When I signed up to give a speech on Valentine’s Day, I wanted to push myself further out of my comfort zone by sharing an emotional story. My past speeches have been informational without touching on emotions whatsoever.  In the past months, I’ve heard many powerful and vulnerable speeches that really touched my heart – Jeremy and his transformation because of his daughters, Tomo and the loss of her father, Landon’s area contest winning speech and recently Dave Z.’s inspirational 10th speech.
Initially I thought about telling the story about my husband and how he is the opposite of my Dad but I didn’t want to just talk about my love life. Instead I wanted to share a part of me that others can learn from. I realized this after listening to my daughter’s speech.  In comparison with the rest of the students who did their TED talk at school, Eyva’s speech was encouraging.  This inspired me to open myself and also present an encouraging speech .  I felt my story of discovering self-compassion can move someone towards discovering their own.
The speech also made those raw emotions come alive – in a way it helped to revisit these emotions as I drew strength from them. Through suffering can I only grow stronger.”

And that is a sentiment I suspect a lot of you can relate to. Thank you, Elaine, for sharing your story.

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*Thanks to Joy Clausen Soto, Guest Speaker, and winner of the evening’s Speakathon for the inspiration of the title of this post. Her speech was based off Zig Ziglar’s use of the word ‘Fantastic’. Yes, sometimes we have Speakathons because we have so many outstanding members waiting to give equally outstanding speeches.

 

 

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The importance of Audience Feedback: The Hype Man and Hype Woman

Public Speaking is almost universally recognized as something that brings great fear and anxiety to most people. It is often listed as one’s biggest fear. Toastmasters is a program designed, in part, to help one overcome that fear. How does one overcome the fear of public speaking? Not in small part due to member enthusiasm.

Toastmasters 7 has many enthusiastic members. Above: Lou Weimann, Toastmaster last week. And a guest, Zak, who won best Table Topics speaker and gave excellent meeting feedback

 

At the end of our last Toastmasters meeting, one of our guests (pictured above) gave feedback about how enthusiastic our club was. He specifically mentioned how there was a “lot of hootin’ and hollerin’” that added to a very enthusiastic and energetic atmosphere. It was then I realized that I needed to focus some attention on that unrecognized, but valuable member(s) of our club: the hype man and hype woman.

Above is a gif of Flavor Flav who probably brought worldwide acclaim to the importance of the hype man in a hip-hop band. In wikipedia I found this little blurb:

Music writer Mickey Hess expands the term as follows: “a hype man is a figure who plays a central but supporting role within a group, making his own interventions, generally aimed at hyping up the crowd while also drawing attention to the words of the MC.”

That perfectly encapsulates the role of the hype men and women at Toastmaster 7 meetings.

When someone is speaking at our Toastmasters meeting, encouragement plays a huge role in both creating a sense of camaraderie and making the speaker feel appreciated and encouraged to repeat and push themselves within Toastmasters and outside the club.

After the meeting last week, I was talking to one of our members, Sureal Sparx, about some of the other clubs he had visited in the past and he mentioned how one club only offered a polite golf clap after every speaker exited the stage.

Boo to polite golf claps

Now I am not sure about you. But if I am not feeling confident about giving a presentation and I get a polite little golf clap, I’m not sure I’d want to do that again. But on the other hand if I get the equivalent of Flavor Flav hyping up the entire audience to be the most enthusiastic they’ve ever been – I am going to exit the stage feeling pretty good about myself and inspired to push myself further.

Therefore, this post is dedicated to our many hype men and women: The Lynettes and Albertos, the Yesicas and the Sureals, the Corinnas and the Christophs.

I can promise you this: if you come to one of our meetings,

you will leave feeling pumped

and ready to tackle anything life throws at you.

 

Much appreciation to our creative writer:  Sam Ollinger!

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A Remarkable Transformation: David Zarella

As always, Dave held the audience’s attention in the palm of his hand when he delivered a powerfully raw, and hilarious tenth speech from the Competent Communicator manual. Photo: Yesica Vazquez
At our last meeting, one of our members crossed an incredible threshold: Completing the tenth speech in the Competent Communicator manual.

David Zarella’s speech was titled “A Remarkable Transformation”.

The man from Jersey recounted his growth within Toastmasters 7. He described his first meeting two years ago which had a very somber mood because our beloved  Club President had just unexpectedly died.

Dave talked about how joining Toastmasters had made him feel part of an inspiring community.

And then he switched gears, with his trademark and hilarious expletive laden style, and launched a call to action to our guests to join Toastmasters, “the members of this club will help you achieve any level of confidence you want.”

Dave touched on why our club is so special, “you become part of a community,” and how he found his own speaking style – “Unfortunately, it’s the irreverent smart-ass style. But I dig it. So you’re stuck with it!”.

That tenth speech by Dave, was quite the emotional roller coaster. He held the audience in the palm of his hand, in complete mastery of the craft of speaking well – I noticed that all thirty one attendees laughed uproariously and shed a tear or two during the course of Dave recounting his journey within Toastmatsters 7.

And having witnessed Dave’s journey so far from the beginning in just two years – I have to admit that it was indeed, a remarkable transformation.

 

 

Toastmasters Gives Us Life!

The title of this post is a slight play on the name of venue where we held our last meeting, The Life Community Center. We are in the process of deciding where a new meeting space should be. And why are we pondering this? That is because the California housing crisis has hit us here at Toastmasters – the rent of our existing meeting space at Normal Heights Community Center has gone up!

Increasing rent gets a thumbs down.

Last Thursday, we met at a potential new meeting space The Life Community Meeting Center. As Toastmasters members, we have the opportunity to weigh in on the decision on our new permanent meeting space that will also fit our budget (which is partly funded by member dues).

But the main reason we all keep showing up every week is because learning how to communicate effectively and become leaders in the process – a skill that will benefit all of us throughout our lives. Below is a recap of last Thursday’s meeting. All photos were taken by the VP of Public Relations, Elaine.

Tomo (left) was our lovely Toastmaster of the evening. One of the guests, Brad, was a Table Topics speaker who won Table Topics.
Ron (right) received the coveted blue ribbon for being the best evaluator of the evening in evaluating Matt’s speech
Matt (left) won the blue ribbon for being the best speaker of the evening.

If this has piqued your interest, consider attending our next meeting on January 17th (Thursday) which will be held at:
4649 Hawley Blvd, San Diego, CA 92116

The meeting starts at 6:30PM. See you there!

Starting the New Year with TM7

It’s nine days into the brand new year and the Toastmasters 7 crew has already started out the new year with the best foot possible. On the horizon, a new fancy pants new meeting location (scroll down for details).

Last Thursday’s meeting in pictures thanks to the talented Elaine Dusetzina, VP of Public Relations.

Christoph Kubitza, Knowledge Keeper of all things!
The always wonderful Yesica Vasquez, Toastmaster of the evening here introducing the word of the week (WOW) and the meeting’s theme
The evenings functionaries who were all definitely more enthusiastic than they appear in this photo.
Elaine (right) the Table Topic Master who led a fun Table Topics session.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Our three fantastic manual speakers: Lou, Jose, and Matt. Matt was the winner of the evening.



 

 

 

 

 

 

Our three fantastic evaluators: Lynette, Tomo, and Omar. Lynette was the winner amongst the evaluators.

 

On Jan 10th, San Diego Toastmasters 7 is trying a different community center to host their meetings for a possible relocation. Please join us this Thursday, 6:30pm to 8:00pm for another night of fun while improving your public speaking skills.

LOCATION: 6244 El Cajon Blvd Suite 22, San Diego, CA 92115

P.S. Meetings will resume at Normal Heights Community Center after 1/10 until further notice.

From Christoph:

LIFE Community Center is located on a Medical, Dental, Professional Center Campus.

Coming from I-805 N or South or North bound I-15 catch I-8.
– Take the Fairmount Avenue/Montezuma Road exits and take Montezuma Rd.
– Turn Right at College Avenue and drive about 1 1/2 miles and turn Left at Arosa Str.
– Follow Arosa Street into Rose Street and
– Turn Right at 63rd Street.
– Turn Right at El Cajon Blvd and the destination is around the corner on your right. See Pictures.
If you pass Effin’s pub west bound you have gone too far.

Thank you for reading. See you at the meeting!